Couple in Love
What does a couple in love look like? Even more importantly,
how does such a couple act towards each other? In its definition of “couple”,
Webster’s Dictionary uses such terms and phrases as “join” and “unite”, “to
connect for consideration together” and “to join for combined effect”. So if we
add the elements of love to this connection, this union, we begin to get the
feel for what such a couple is really all about.
A Couple in Love Is Connected
A loving couple connects on all the important levels. In
such a relationship, we know that our partner:
- supports our emotional health and self-reliance - does not
hold him/herself up as your sole reason for living, but instead knows and
respects all the elements of your life from which you derive happiness and
- has faith in your
character and values, readily knowing what the right thing is, and that we will
do the right thing regardless of the situation.
- fully understands
that each partner can function completely and successfully on their own, but
instead puts the sense of “team” ahead of their own self-worth.
- practices random
acts of love, saying "I love you" not only in words but in deeds (the
back rubs and neck massages, flowers anytime, love notes on the mirror, shared
household duties and chores).
- is your best
friend in whom you may freely confide your innermost thoughts and needs, and
with whom you genuinely enjoy spending time and sharing experiences.
- believes as you do
in your values and goals, and works with you to achieve them (also known as "equally yoked").
- is patient because he/she understands and respects your
nature, and knows that you're worth waiting for.
matches your sense of healthy lifestyle (eating, sleep,
cleanliness, exercise habits, balance between work and play).
- matches your sex
drive and satisfaction levels, performing those acts lovingly and not from any
sense of obligation or guilt.
- understands that
progressing through life as we age brings changes, and readily adapts to those
changes at each stage.
- is honest and
straightforward with you at all times, but always with kindness and respect.
- trusts you in all
instances (conveys no worry about your choice of friends, phone calls, hobbies,
or alone time).
- recognizes, respects
and supports your responsibilities to other family members and friends gathered
from any previous relationship(s).
Bottom line, any and all of the above are random acts of
love, to be cherished always! To perform them, share them and sincerely derive
happiness from them is what love is all about! They’re all what a couple in
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